Sunday, April 29, 2012
Flowers are like friends, they just are there, give lots and cheer us up!
I have long espoused the importance of networking, friendship, and finding ways to have open, honest healthy relatiohships. When my clients have such a base, I know that they are well on their way to a better life, and if there is addiction present, a definite drop in relapse potential. The one truth here is that we will not call friends if we are in trouble if we haven't called them in our joy.
My friend Ron Carducci has a website regarding all aspects of friendship. He posts a new article about once a month regarding issues in friendship. It is a great teaching tool as is his Book: Playing It By Ear, which can be found on his website as well. It is a delightful teaching manual in which he uses stories from his life as a jazz drummer (an earlier vocation prior to his Ph.d in Psychology). It is an easy read and filled with images and tales as to make the lessons like pieces of dessert. I think you will learn new things to make you a better friend and have a good time doing it.
This week make the effort and call two friends, and next week too. The rule is you don't have to stay on the phone for a long time, so don't use that as an excuse.
Thursday, April 12, 2012
I slept to the sound of rain coming down, heavily at times. What a great comfort to hear. I was transported in my thoughts to the African plains, watching the rains come in at distance. The following poem emerged with my tea. Photo site noted below.
When I first hear the rain coming
my animal skin shivers in delight,
my heart looks for a wide trunked oak
to shelter me.
I am taken to the plains
watching big animals
staring into the mist
beneath such a tree.
There is something settling inside of us,
like the drops falling on sand,
quietly pulling us
into this moment.
Can we too, like the rain,
be drawn into the center,
the deeper rivers that flow beneath,
the ones we call home?
B. Misty Wycoff
April 12, 2012
Lion in rain
This young male was oblivious to the rain which was pelting down
Monday, April 2, 2012
I was recently reading about someone who swam with elephants! The images that flood into my mind are deeply imaginative, a little absurd and surely playful. I loved thinking about this. I love that someone was doing it. I loved that I wanted to do it too. I began thinking of how and where I might do this. I also thought about riding on an elephant once and the prickly dry wrinkle of skin on her back. Then I thought about summer and breezes and back to elephants. My friend once did an ink wash on butcher paper that had 13 elephants on it with the words: Thirteen ways of looking at an elephant, a rip on Wallace Steven's poem, "Thirteen ways of looking at a Blackbird", which I then looked up and read aloud. Then I looked out the window and tried to see a blackbird, and then thought about the crow that often wakes me in the morning, yelling at me "Get UP! Get UP! Get UP! which in crow language sounds like CAWCAW, CAWCAW!!! Then one of my black dogs climbed into my lap, looking at me, surely saying "I'M HUNGRY." Then I thought about the way animals talk to me and remembered a friend telling me he liked how I put words in the mouths of my animals expressions.. and so on.
This is a piece of my "Morning Pages" a concept developed by Julia Cameron who is the author is "The Artist's Way", "Sound of Paper", "Prayers for the Non Beliver", "The Right to Write", "Heart Steps", and many other books on creativity and writing. Her idea is to start every day of your life with two sheets of writing. Stream of consciousness, like the example above, a letter, practicing a description of something or telling a story, are all possibilities. What you write is not as important as the act itself. She feels it is a kind of unplugging of our creative juices. Whatever we are stuck thinking about lays atop the rich vein of gold of our creative energies. If we can uncap the well we will have access all day to the deeper, richer, wilder stuff that lies underneath. Our creativity can get bogged down in the business of living and we need to practice setting it free on a daily basis so that it can come out and play. When we pass this portal, we enter into a zone with less rules and injunctions and negativity. We are inviting a part of us to come out and in meeting this part of ourself we often find a sense of meaning and body joy that is not always available with the accumulation of success or completions that the world gives us.
Learn to nurture this part of yourself and you will find your outlook is happier and less cranky.
I have tagged three of her sites for you to explore, you can sign up for tweets or her blog or her course, all lively and supportive of the artist within all of us.
Now where are your two morning pages????????
Reflections on the Artist's Way - Julia Cameron
Julia Cameron Live
The Artist's Way at Work: The Official Site
Offstage cues: Two pages! Every morning!