When we look at our lives through this window, it is easier to see what might be important. It probably isn't the big career leap, or new cars or property acquisition, but the sweet moments that our lives bump, crash or slip into the consciousness and time of others. Times we touched, we shared, we held on to one another. Seconds ticking along when we were graced to see the interior path of another human, the inner and outer struggles, and triumphs shared.
These people that have left us, are not remembered now by the photos they posted on Facebook, or tweets, texts or emails..........no we see them in real time with us... the particular look on their face when........X happened, the way the light caught the color of their hair, or scent that came off of the that tattered coat when we hugged them, something they said during the long hours we were together in a car driving to an event, or the tears on the phone on a lonely night. Moments that we actually connected. For this to happen one needs to commit time and space for it. Creating a place to be with people we care about so that these things can occur.
What follows is a piece written by a 2012 graduate of Yale University, who died the day after this was written. She writes well and shares similar ideas.
KEEGAN: The Opposite of Loneliness
So my question to you today, is what space have you given today to nurture those relationships that bring the sorts of memories that Marina Keegan speaks of in this piece?
Offstage cues: TIME (not texts) SPENT WITH FRIENDS, CREATION OF MEMORIES, GRATITUDE FOR LIVING IN THE PRESENT