I wrote this in 2007 two years before he died. His birthday is coming up this week. He would have turned 91 tomorrow. With all the postings around Father's Day I went hunting for this piece to share. I was talking to another friend this week, one I have known for over 40 years, and I referenced a period in my life that he had no knowledge of. The conversation that followed reminded me of this moment with Dad. It reminded me that even our best efforts to get to know someone leaves us often short of truly knowing them.
Although there are great and wondrous things it, I think the current culture of social media, which is so "me" oriented takes us even farther from the possibility of a deep connection. It seems to me that we have all gone into the publicity business, personally advertising who we wish to be known as. In the case of the conversation with my Dad, it took standing next to him, and allowing for the conversation to wander down the wind and find this topic. To me some of the best conversations occur after a long period of silence between two people. In these moments, things can rise to the surface that stay out of sight in the "touch-you-are-it" world we live in.
Try this.. find someone you care about and just sit with them, on a bench, in the kitchen, on a walk. Don't, for a minute listen to music or have the TV on, and do not pick up that phone. Just see what happens.
Other than that................Happy Birthday Dad! love, Misty