There is an old adage that goes: If one person calls you a horse, they are crazy.. If two people call you a horse, it is a conspiracy.. If three people call you a horse…..BUY A SADDLE!
We are foolish to believe ourselves to be sufficient in all regards. Good ideas are like sleep…we do not MAKE ourselves sleep, in fact, we allow it. It seems to be so with other things as well. We cannot force orgasms or the meditative state. We prepare the mental and physical space for it to occur. A good idea is a good idea, regardless of whether or not you came up with it.
I want you to take a moment and think of feedback that you have gotten. It could be the loving conversation of friends or family members or the angry verbal attack that is part of an argument. The idea is to look at how you take in information about yourself, no matter the source. Are you open to hearing the meaning beneath the words? Or do you deflect any judgements or observations of yourself?
I am not saying it is good or easy to hear beneath angry words, but let us start with the premise that all reflection of us has at least a kernel of truth in it. Even those words that are flung at us in rage or pain, those words that are clearly projections of the screamer's own unexplored issues. People often get stopped by the whole INTENT issue….."I didn't MEAN to hurt you". If we drop a knife from the kitchen counter and it falls on our foot and cuts us, the cut is still real, the blood and pain are real, all this despite the fact that it wasn't intentional. So when people say we are mean or aggressive, we may not be seeing just how our innocent (to us) words are landing on other people's feet, so to speak.
Don’t let your ego get the better of you; if someone has observations of you to give, take them. Don't take them to be true at face value, but at least consider them. Consider whether or not there are UNINTENDED or UNCONSCIOUS TO YOU effects that you had previously not considered.
Before we drop it in the mail, are careful to review the information we are putting on a bank check that we write. We don't want the wrong information going out in the world. We don't want to be misunderstood regarding our financial interactions. We are careful. We check the change we are given and the money we pass to others. We check and recheck this transaction. We are careful to not give something we don't intend to give. We carefully observe what is handed to us. If we are given too much or too little we are apt to question it and say, "Hmm I am not sure this is right?" I am saying if we are only this careful with our personal interactions with the world, if we observe what we get and give, and listen if someone says.. "Hmm I am not sure this is right?".
In my experience the world is consistently giving us prompts and cues that will open our understanding of ourselves and others. If an idea comes to you a few times, it probably warrants a good look…..if not a saddle!
Have a great weekend. Misty
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